Apa kah pacaran jarak jauh bisa di percaya?

Pacaran jarak jauh memang BISA dipercaya, namun membutuhkan apa itu Kepercayaan dan Komitmen yang kuat untuk satu hati dan satu tujuan. Kita lihat dulu dasar kalian saling mengikat hati itu untuk apa dulu? Apakah hanya untuk mengisi keadaan yang kosong agar tidak jomblo atau memang ingin serius untuk sehidup semati/menikah. Jika salah satu dari kalian mempunyai tujuan yang berbeda, maka pacaran seperti apapun kalau dijalani akhirnya juga akan berlalu/hilang. Dan tentunya kepercayaan sudah tidak berlaku lagi disini. Meskipun pacaran jarak jauh sangat berbeda dengan jarak dekat pada umumnya, namun untuk masalah kesetiaan dan keseriusan keduanya mempunyai nilai yang sama, yang artinya kesetiaan dan keseriusan jadi kunci utama kelanggengan suatu hubungan. Ini merupakan pengalaman pribadi saya sendiri, pernah pacaran jarak jauh (sampai saat ini masih) namun kami bisa saling percaya dan akan menikah tahun depan ^_^ dan hubungan kami baik-baik saja, karena tujuan kami sama yaitu untuk sehidup semati/menikah dan BUKAN untuk hanya sekedar punya pacar. Sekarang tinggal anda berdua, bagaimana membentuk tujuan yang sama agar jarak itu tidak menjadi kendala dalam berhubungan. Jika Kalian berdua mempunyai tekad untuk menikah, maka 60-70-% Anda bisa mempercayai si dia.

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Pengalaman pribadi ( DINO )

Bagaimana mencari teman yang bisa dipercaya dan dapat menyimpan rahasia?

biar gwa tebak
umur kamu dibawah 18 taun yah..

sebenarnya banyak orang2 yg bisa dipercaya dan bisa megang rahasia,,
namun kalo nyari yg masih teen age(masih SMP/SMA) tuh susah,,
tinggal kamu mau terbuka dan bisa menerima semua background masing2 orang atau enggak,,coz orang2 yg bisa dipercaya n bisa jaga rahasia itu mayoritas berada dalam ormas2(organisasi masyarakat) yg mengandung unsur agama.
menurut pengalaman gwa orang2 yg kaya' gitu banyak di LDII, Muhammadyah, NU, maupun kristen LDS(later day saints)
orang2 yg menganut faham2 itu biasanya dapat dipercaya n bisa jaga rahasia. Namun usia seseorang juga berpengaruh, usia 19 keatas lebih bisa jaga rahasia, namun banyak yg mau memanfaatkan orang2 yg usianya lebih muda. Orang pendiam n cuek lebih bisa dipercaya dan jaga rahasia, orang yg friendly abis bisa dipercaya tapi susah jaga rahasia.
gwa sendiri orangnya mang menjunjung tinggi yg namanya janji, mau berjanji berarti wajib ditepati. harus mati2an tepati janji, bila emang udah mati2an tp gak mampu menepati brarti itu memang takdir Tuhan.

intinya dari yg diatas.
kamu tuh harus koreksi diri dulu, pantes gak kamu dipercaya dan bisa gak nyimpen rahasia
sory tadi gwa nyebutin ormas2 tertentu, tapi yg gwa maksud tuh gak cuman itu doang n gwa mihak itu (coz tuh yg ada di sekitar gwa aja). yg gwa maksud, orang2 yg beragama tapi ta'at beribadah dan jaga konsekwensi dalam ajaran agama. kalo beragama doang tapi gak ta'at n gak ibadah, itu orang yg berbahaya.
n orang yg gak terikat ma agama yg tidak terorganisir tuh juga bahaya.
bila nyari yg masih sekolah yah nyari temen yg tertib ma agama aja. orang yg biasa2 aja juga ada sih, cuman susah nyarinya.

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asalkan mau terbuka n mau menerima semua kalangan, kamu pasti ketemu ma orang2 yg kamu cari.

Pria Berwajah Lebar Tidak Bisa Dipercaya?

Sabtu, 13/3/2010 | 15:17 WIB

KOMPAS.com - Hasil penelitian yang diadakan tim psikolog dari Universitas St Andrews, Inggris, belum lama ini menunjukkan, pria dengan bentuk wajah lebar memiliki karakter tidak bisa diandalkan atau tidak dapat dipercaya. Sebagai gambaran, pria seperti David Tennant lebih bisa dipercaya daripada juri American Idol Simon Cowell.

Penelitian ini melibatkan sejumlah pria untuk mengikuti gim komputer dengan tujuan mendapatkan uang. Permainan ini memberikan ruang bagi pesertanya untuk saling mempercayai partisipan atau bahkan mengeksploitasi rekannya.

Ketika permainan tersebut akan dimulai, setiap peserta ditunjukkan foto wajah tanpa ekspresi partisipan lain. Setiap peserta harus memilih partisipan mana (berdasarkan foto tersebut) untuk kemudian dijadikan rekan yang dipercaya menggunakan uang atau tidak. Tujuan akhirnya adalah mengejar sejumlah hadiah uang, dengan kerja tim.

Kepala peneliti Michael Stirrat mengatur permainan tersebut untuk menyelidiki apakah ada hubungan antara persepsi tentang kepercayaan dengan perilaku. Hasilnya, ditemukan bahwa sejumlah pria partisipan lebih percaya untuk memberikan uang kepada pria berwajah lebih tirus.

Stirrat mengatakan, pada umumnya masyarakat membuat penilaian instan kepada orang asing, apakah harus mempercayainya atau waspada terhadapnya. Penelitian terhadap sejumlah pria ini mencoba membuktikan basis atas persepsi masyarakat tersebut.

Yang perlu disimak adalah, teori evolusi seleksi seksual memprediksikan wajah pria memberikan sinyal apakah dia dominan secara fisik, dan kemungkinan mengeksploitasi. Hasil penelitian ini membuktikan pria dengan wajah lebih lebar memiliki kecenderungan mengeksploitasi kepercayaan dari orang lain, dengan tujuan mendapatkan uang untuk dirinya sendiri.

Meski begitu hasil ini tidak bisa dijadikan kesimpulan akhir, karena penelitian masih berlanjut. Menurut Stirrat hasilnya memang penting namun perlu juga dipahami bahwa tak selamanya pria berwajah lebar itu jahat. Pada jenis permainan lain, pria berwajah lebar lebih cenderung mengorbankan uangnya untuk orang lain.

Penilaian ini tak berhenti sampai di sini. Namun menurut si peneliti, fakta yang muncul adalah pria berwajah lebar punya dua kecenderungan pilihan. Pria dengan ciri fisik ini memiliki kapasitas untuk menjalani jalur kriminal dan atau aparat penegak hukum. Sederhananya: menjadi penjahat, atau polisi.

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Editor: din

Sumber: Telegraph

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